Do you long to create a life for yourself and your family that you’re totally happy with?
Do you often feel disappointed in yourself for failing to reach the goals you’ve set for yourself, your kids and family?
Do you find yourself wondering why you never quite get the success you hope for?
Yes, I’ve been there too.
Which is why I’m sharing some intel I read from a brilliant post on how to be successful.
The post is about the difference between SYSTEMS and GOALS when it comes to achieving success.
It is by behaviour science expert James Clear, over on Entrepreneur.com.
To sum up the post, if you focus on creating great systems, you are far more likely to make progress and be happy doing so, than if you focus on goals.
This makes perfect sense to me as a way to succeed, whatever it is you’re aiming for in your life at the moment.
In fact, the more I think about it, the more I realise that it makes great sense as a way to live your life full stop!
Here’s an example from my own life to illustrate how systems work better than goals.
In autumn 2015, I vowed that I would never again feel as blimp-like as I had on the beach that summer.
My goal was to have a beach-ready body by the following summer.
I enrolled with a personal trainer – a luxury I know, but I chose to spend on that and save in other areas – and through the routine of a weekly training session, I found ways to make exercise a part of my daily life.
A couple of years on, I still manage to do so much more exercise than I did back in 2015.
Plus I no longer need the trainer.
Looking back I can see that the GOAL wasn’t the most important thing for making progress and achieving success.
Yes, it was the trigger, but it wasn’t the enabler.
The important thing was setting up a SYSTEM to enable me to achieve that goal.
The goal of being beach-body ready passed in summer 2016
Yet here I am a few years on and exercise is now a regular part of my daily routine.
I feel strong and healthy and I am much happier with my body.
This is a truer measure of success than how I looked on the beach a few months after I started to work out more.
I can also see how the methodology of focusing on systems over goals works well in parenting.
Focus less on the GOALS you have for your children, their lives and their futures.
Instead focus on the SYSTEMS you create as a parent.
This way you can ensure your child/ren flourish and are content on a daily basis, which takes the pressure off everyone.
The moment we achieve a goal is fleeting.
We feel elated, then the moment passes.
But set up great systems and they help us form our lives, they are the every day.
If you can make progress and feel content with the majority of the days in your life, surely that is a far greater measure of successful living than constantly striving to achieve goals?
I’ve stopped trying to figure out how to be successful and am currently enjoying being successful!
Go on, have a try…
Entrepreneur.com created a great video to accompany the Forget Goal Setting post… have a watch and see if it makes you want to change your ways.
I hope this post resonates with you. It’s the little tweaks to the way we think that can really help shape us and our lives.
Do read our other Health & Self posts for more simple life hacks to make your life flow just that bit more smoothly
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